Life has a way of grinding us up if we’re not careful. Think about it, where we likely spend a bulk of our week is even called the grind.
Then when we add in the complexities, and at times drudgeries, of relationships we’ve got a recipe for struggle and life sucking burden.
Or do we?
I think what helps keep us in relationships is the hope of rediscovering the feelings we experienced at the beginning. You know the ones. Obsessive. Blindingly optimistic. And idealistically distorted.
We could talk for hours … about nothing (and everything). Hanging on every word and hating the fact that eventually one of us would have to actually sleep in order to function the next day.
As the relationship continued and the lustful longings inevitably fade they are replaced by completely different ones. And if you’ve been watching too many sappy movies or binging the Bachelor/ette you think there is something horribly wrong with your marriage.
Where did the passion go?
Society seems to have an idealized view of passion. [Read more…] about The Problem Isn’t Passion