This is the first post in a short series where we’re learning why most husbands stay stuck on some plateau in life and why a rare few are able to level up. This is all included in the Man Of His Word Mastermind Groups that start in August. You can learn more by clicking here.
There are several things that define us as men (and by this I mean males: husbands and fathers).
Today let’s talk about mission; specifically why some husbands feel like they’re going nowhere no matter how hard they work, how many books they read and date nights they plan – while others are able to be effective, not just busy.
Imagine you were to die today…
…and you were able to look in on your funeral to witness what others would say about your life. Let’s assume that at your funeral the words would be glowing, the stories entertaining, and the tears genuine.
Now cut to later that evening when your boys — the guys who knew you best — were having a few drinks in your honor (this is assuming you have a group of men who truly know you – far too many men today do not currently have this in their life).
What would these guys say? Would they feel grateful that you gave your best gifts to the planet? Would they be happy that, even though your life was cut short, that you didn’t mess around with the time you had?
OR would they talk about how they were disappointed that you died with your best gifts left un-given? Will they remember how you talked about your dreams but did little to make them a reality? Would they remember that you spent your time making excuses or investing your energy into stuff that just didn’t matter? Will they talk about how your life was a wake up call for them to stop being busy instead of doing what they felt like they were here to do?
“If you don’t know where you want to go, then it doesn’t matter which path you take.” – Alice in Wonderland
Fact is we live in a world where the immediate far exceeds the important – and I want to propose the reason for this is too many men have lost sight of, or have yet to define, the important in their life. [Read more…] about Are You Being Busy Or Effective?