There are many marriages today that fall under the label of a sexless marriage. Newsweek estimates the number to be about 15 to 20 percent of couples.
So what makes a marriage sexless?
At face value this seems like a simple question.
According to the literature, a sexless marriage is one with sex happening less than once a month.
But wait … there’s still sex happening you say?
Yep, there is.
But imagine how much stress and pressure there is in this relationship.
Think about it … you’re in a marriage where sex hasn’t occurred for months (or years) and you’re approaching a moment where it looks like it may happen.
How much pressure do both people feel in this moment?
The sex almost has to be good or who knows how long it will be before it happens again. In this environment how easy is it to relax and enjoy the moment? To calmly let things unfold and follow the connection together?
What if something doesn’t work?
What if it is over too fast?
How much time is spent in foreplay? Talking? Looking in to each other’s eyes? And how much eroticism is in this moment? Passion?
These types of moments are pressure cookers for relationships.
A sexless marriage includes a great deal of pain, heartache, loneliness and frustration. But … it is still a relationship. And therein lies the path to growth and intimacy again. [Read more…] about Sexless Marriages